Your heart and your mind are two of your most prized possessions and because of that, it is up to you to care for them. If you don’t do it, then who will? If you’re an empath like me, it’s imperative that you learn how to do this. Even if you’re not an empath, you’d be wise to do the same. If you don’t guard your heart and mind, you open yourself up to stress, toxic influences, unnecessary distractions, emotional overload and heartache.
The question is how? How do you guard your heart and mind? Do you now have to become a gate keeper? Absolutely! There are many things in this world that we don’t have control of, however we do have control of ourselves. Specifically, the things we watch and listen to and the people we spend time with. These are the greatest contributors to what’s being poured into our hearts and minds every day. Therefore we must learn to be selective in what and whom we give access to.
We must learn to have boundaries and it starts with saying no. Start saying no to programs on TV that consciously or unconsciously add to your stress or fears, such as the news. It is ok to be informed, but watching the news five times a day will slowly but surely have a negative impact on you. Instead, be selective in what you watch, replacing the news with programs or YouTube Videos that empower, educate and strengthen your mind. Or read or listen to audio books. You would be surprised how it will alter your mindset for the better. The same applies to the matters of the heart. You must learn to say no to relationships that no longer serve you.
Sometimes its necessary to let go of friends and relationships that drain you mentally and emotionally instead of pouring into you. I know! That’s a tough one, especially when there may be a long history between you. However, how long will you sacrifice your mental health to give misery the company that it so desperately wants? How long will you allow your heart to be broken, so that someone else’s heart can feel whole? Maybe it’s time to surround yourself with people that you can learn from or you at least enjoy, while in their company. Do not be a garbage bag for others to dump their garbage into. And do not serve your heart on a platter to those who don’t know how to properly take care for it. People will do what we allow them to do, every time.
Of course, that’s just my opinion. I myself am just learning how to do this. Honestly, at first it felt scary and a little cruel to end long term friendships. I felt a little lonely at first, after reducing my friend circle. But then, the peace of mind that followed was everything! Suddenly, I had more time to care for me. More time, to pay attention to what I needed and the energy to give it to myself. My mind feels more at peace and my heart feels more full. I no longer feel like I am betraying myself by allowing toxic influences and people unlimited access to my mind my heart. I learned that self preservation is self love and for me, there is no turning back. Life is way too short.
Until next time,
Love,
Drea
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