What is a blueprint? In the simplest terms, a blueprint is a drawing or image used to guide you in the process of making something, such as an architect uses to construct a building. During a recent conversation about life, love and relationships with someone, she stated something really interesting:
“It’s a shame that a lot of us didn’t have a blueprint for what real love looks like.”
I was really struck by the comment because in my quest to become the best me possible, I’ve realized something about myself: For the longest time, I’ve been struggling to achieve love based on ideas that were presented in the movies, books and even music. It didn’t dawn on me that I didn’t have a real blueprint to follow. You know… a two parent household, that modeled navigating the ups and downs of marriage, parenting, healthy communication, loyalty, commitment, respect, support and partnership. Is that what my problem was all this time?
After some thought, I would agree that having such a blueprint could have possibly made my journey easier. However, then again…. maybe not. My old victim mentality would have bought into the notion that I am at a disadvantage because I didn’t have that type of blueprint to show me what real love looks like. However, the new striving to be better version of me, who has put in the work to heal, disagrees.
Why? Because there are many people out there who didn’t have that blueprint, who are doing pretty damn well! Not having a blueprint doesn’t make me special or a victim, it’s actually quite common. What it makes me, is grateful for all that I do have and all that I am working towards. And you know what? That’s enough. I’ve found that love shows up in many forms.
So, no pity party, here! The new me knows that I am already loved by my Creator who knew me before I was even born. There are no mistakes! I was created for a purpose, blueprint or not! I am full of love and quite capable of having healthy loving relationships and a family just like anyone else! (Even if it does require some falling down and getting back up again.) But that….I just call life!
Till next time,
Love,
Drea
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